Your outlook on life is something that is uniquely yours, and it’s a choice you make every day. It’s very simple. You can choose to be a winner or a whiner.
Winners know that they need to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to them, while whiners look to blame others for everything that happens.
There’s a clear distinction.
In sports, for example, the highly successful people know that it wasn’t the bad call at the end of the game that prevented the them from winning. A lot of things happen during a game that led to the final moment, and if things had been handled differently earlier in the game, that final moment wouldn’t have needed to unfold that way at all.
Winning is a team sport, and it never happens in a vacuum. More importantly, having the right team around you is critical. For example, Michael Jordan is considered by many to be the greatest basketball player to ever play the game. And yet, he didn’t start winning NBA titles until Scottie Pippen and few other key players joined his team. As great as Michael was, he needed great teammates, and he need to trust them to do what they do best so that everyone together could achieve more. Often times, winning involves sacrifice. No one can reach the top alone. That frequently involves suppressing one’s own glory of the sake of the team’s victory.
Choosing to win extends into all areas of life, not just team sports.
Marriage is yet another great example of this. At one point in my life, I was a wedding officiant and I got to meet a lot of couples who were getting ready to tie the knot. One theme that came up over and over again — and has even in my own marriage — is that loving each other above all else is a priority. Choosing to win in marriage is about putting your spouse above yourself. Too many people are in the game of life to serve themselves instead of someone else.
That means you aren’t right all the time, and it also means that very few things happen at our convenience. Again, sacrifice is necessary. It’s more important to get things right in your relationship than it is to be right.
Choosing to win is also about creating the life you want.